Friday 21 March 2014

Effective Ways On How To Help A Child With Behavior Problems

By Gwen Lowe


Helping a child with a serious attitude problem could be not that easy. Since the child cannot differentiate the wrong from the right behavior, it would be hard for him or her to make a decision. Considering this, the parents are mainly responsible in guiding and correcting them when they go the wrong path based on norms.

A youngster will be bombarded with lots of stimuli and would not even bother filtering these. Family, friends, and the environment can play a significant role in molding his or her developing personality to either on the positive side or more of the negative side. How to help a child with behavior problems could be a simple question for many but often times overlooked and taken for granted. Basing on social psychology, we will give you tips to help you discipline your lad.

Firstly, you must put to mind that isolation is not the medicine for imposing the right behavior to your child and nipping the bad one in the bud. This may even cause antisocial thoughts to grow on your youngster. Instead, you must find an environment conducive to character development and to becoming a socially intelligent person.

However, you do not want to destroy the childhood of your kids. Both bad and good influences from the environment will help them have a well rounded personality. What you can do is deploy the reward and consequence strategy developed by experts. Every time they do something inappropriate with their peers, you must give them something as a consequence. If they do the opposite, reward them for a job well done.

When giving consequences, ensure that it would tailor their personality. For example, some kids would not want to do house chores while some like it a lot. Some would not want to be kept away from their peers and some does not want to go out.

Based on their personality, punish them something they do not like doing. It would be ineffective to punish a sanguine youngster to dance and for melancholic lad to stay indoors. Furthermore, you have to understand the natural temperament of your youngster. This will maximize the effectiveness of your disciplinary actions and not destroy their inborn personality strengths.

Parents nowadays can often overlook this fact and would punish their children because of personality bias. You have to know first if what you are seeing as a behavioral problem is true and not superficial. You also have to understand your own self before you can have the right to throw discipline to your offspring.

It may not be fair to say that because it is your son or daughter, you have all the rights to train him or her without even knowing your self. Importantly, discipline must come from at home initially. If you are trying to protect them from smoking someday yet you smoke at home, it would be very incongruent. If you want your lad to mimic your good traits then show them by doing it yourself.

To sum this up, 3 factors are important in training your youngster. First, provide them with the right setting and possibly with the right peers. Second, study their personality and their temperament. Last, be a role model so they can follow good habits.




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