Wednesday 24 July 2013

How To Make Your Confidence Soar

By Lachlan Haynes


What's With Your Attitude?

Random question without notice: Have you ever had a negative experience in relation to your 'learning' that has damaged your confidence? In other words, has anyone ever said something to you like 'no, you're wrong' (even though you knew you were right), 'you're an idiot', 'you're stupid', 'you'll never amount to anything', or 'you're never going to achieve anything in your life'? Has anything like this ever happened?

It's important you reflect on this because attacks like this on young people have been shown to have a profoundly negative and long-lasting impact that can often remain with the person for their entire life! Comments like this can shatter self-belief and can significantly impact the way a person views themselves - particularly when delivered at a young age. When someone is told they are 'pathetic' or 'useless' or 'stupid' by a higher (and often respected or feared) authority than them (such as a sibling, classmate, parent, teacher, relative, older stranger) the individual can actually believe that to be the truth - even without any evidence to support it. The biggest problem however is that a person's self-confidence is directly related to the attitude they apply to their education (and their 'learning' in general). So when a negative comment is directed to a young person about their ability to learn and understand things, it can still be affecting the attitude they have to their schooling in high school and college.

To read the full article please follow the links below.

Where's Your Esteem?

If you have a low sense of self-esteem you will also have poor feelings about your abilities and your worth. Unfortunately, low self-esteem also results in low achievement level at school. This is because low self-esteem directly impacts your confidence, your attitude, your resilience and your enthusiasm for learning. But we don't want to be negative about it! We want to provide you with some solutions don't we! So, what can you do about it?

Give Me Solutions!

Here are some ideas on things you can do to make your ego soar. Soar like an eagle. Did you ever know that you're my hero? You are the wind beneath my wings. OK sorry it's getting weird. Let's get into it.

1. Remember to be positive all the time - about everything single thing! If you don't feel positive just fake it. That's right, fake it! Fake it till you make it! There's little point in being negative anyway because it doesn't solve the problem does it? It actually just makes things worse. So, try being positive about every single thing for one whole week - even if it makes you feel sick! Give it a go. See what happens. You won't regret that you did. You'll also be surprised at how it trains your inner voice to start giving you positive feedback as well.

2. Think of all the good things about you and any success you have had. If you're not sure ask your friends, siblings or parents. What have you achieved so far? What would you like to achieve? What are the great things about you? Are you a good friend? What do you care about? What's important to you? Write down anything you can think and keep adding to the list when you think of something new. Read the list every morning when you wake up and every time you're feeling down in the dumps. Never allow your inner voice to tell you that there is nothing good about you. Fight back. Finally, stop comparing yourself to others. Whilst others' lives may seem to be perfect it's never the case. Don't fall into the trap of looking at the grass across the street - focus on your own grass! You don't know which one is really greener.

3. Associate with people who like, respect, and support you for who you are. Try to avoid people who are always looking to find fault with you. Why would you want to spend time with negative people? If they're negative about you or others, they are really just down on themselves. You may like to work with them on that flaw but ultimately people like that will be like a weight around your ankles - they'll drag you down.

4. Get involved in activities you actually enjoy. You will likely be successful in these activities which will boost your confidence. It doesn't matter whether you are good at art, marbles, butt-slapping or sport, just do things that make you feel good and things that get you excited (don't do anything that harms others please!)

To read the full article please follow the links below. Good luck with your studies!




About the Author:



No comments:

Post a Comment