Wednesday 12 February 2014

Vital Facts Regarding Raising Your Children

By Marilyn Munro


Children are the most affected when parents argue, separate or even go through a divorce. However, as a parent you can always avoid them getting affected to the affairs of your dysfunctional marriage. Good parenting should help foster self-control, self-reliance, empathy, honesty and cheerfulness

Some parents go an extra mile to consult from family, friends, reading books or even goggle it out. If you try these methods most often than not you will end up confused. This is because every source of your information advices differently leading to contradiction. More so the behavior of your child may not be the same throughout.

As much as the confusion is there, sometimes getting reference from a book may help you understand why your child behaves at a particular way. However, your own friends and family members will not help you to know how to bring up your child. This is because every child is unique.

Whether your partner has withdrawn, is angry, abusive, rude, sarcastic there is always less or no communication at all. You find that in such situations parents will tend to use their kids to speak on their behalf. Such parents forget that the kids are looking up to them.

While at a tender age kids communicate through play, actions or showing emotions. Commending them when they have done well and reminding them that someone cares for them helps them grow knowing what is good or bad. They will always look upon you as a parent to give them positive information and feedback.

School helps to shape a child's formation and social integration. Every child should be given the right to education. School is where a child acquires the knowledge necessary for growth and begins the social and cultural integration that is necessary to become a full citizen of the society in which he or she lives.

Some parents even go as far as referring their kids to be like the other parent who has made them unhappy. Kids may not understand why you as a parent may be acting in that manner hence; they will think that they have done something to offend you. The only solution to this is to treat your kids the way they are supposed to despite your condition with your spouse.

The importance of education for children is affirmed by a wide range of international conventions. All of the main international conventions on human rights recognize the right of instruction as a fundamental right of every child. Among them is the Convention on the Rights of the Child.

One way of improving the current situation of documented children is to increase their own awareness of rights and entitlements by creative outreach . Some European cities have achieved good results using cultural mediators for this work. These efforts can be assessed and disseminated by targeted, participatory research to make them more effective.

Macro system factors include the government policies that affect employment opportunities and establish programs like Head Start geared to low income families. Chronic system factors also come into play with respect to changes over time in the kind and number of jobs that are available. For example, in the United States, the number of well-paying manufacturing jobs has been shrinking for many years, ravaging whole communities with skyrocketing unemployment. The shrinking tax base in those communities results in fewer resources to support schools, playgrounds, and other community resources important for developing children.

The practice is that where, following a full consideration of the circumstances of the case with particular reference to the human rights obligations. It is determined that adult persons should be deported, they will be accompanied by their kids. Exceptions to this are extremely rare and arise only where the parents have made a deliberate choice to separate themselves from their kids in an attempt to have the deportation order revoked.

The first style is referred to as strict and authoritarian parenting. This style might be a little autocratic since there is a lot of control of the kid. This is because the child is not permitted to question your suggestions or decisions as a parent. The only thing that a child is expected to do is to obey whatever thing he or she is told. In this parenting style a child will never get a chance to disagree with you.

Children ultimately adjust depends not only on their temperament but also on how well their temperament fits with the particular environment they are in what is often called goodness of fit. Kids with difficult temperaments have better adjustment if they receive parenting that is supportive and consistent rather than punitive, rejecting, or inconsistent. In support of their argument, research indicates that children who are impulsive or low in self regulation seem to have more problems and are less sympathetic to others if exposed to hostile, intrusive, or negative parenting rather than to supportive parenting.

Every solution made in this style is usually an agreement between the parent and the kid. It is helpful because it enables the kids to exercise self-control when they are given liberty especially when they are teenagers. Discussing with your child of the set rules is very helpful for it helps the kid understand the reasons why you set them.

The third style of parenting is permissive parenting. It is the most open-minded due to its strict nature. Most people have experienced this type of parenting while they were growing. Kids brought up using this kind of style end up getting spoiled unless they choose to have self control. Lack of self control may lead them astray for they may not know how to set limits in life.

In case of a divorce it is difficult to trust an abusive spouse with your kids. In such occasions it is important to involve the law and prove the abuse to avoid the spouse from getting custody of the kids. Usually this is never an easy task and may require a professional to pull through. All in the most important thing in a dysfunctional relationship or marriage is to always protect your children.




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